“The world is being run by irresponsible spoiled brats.” – P.J. RourkeClick To Tweet
The sentiment by P J Rourke is being echoed most modern-day parents who agree with the fact that today’s children are more spoilt than ever. And yes, there are so many ways parents turn their child into a spoilt brat!
Most children nowadays believe in the notion that they are ‘special’ and, hence, deserving. They also exhibit a distinct lack of responsibility for their actions. Needless to say, these are not the qualities any parent would want their child to grow up with. Yet, what is the reason that more and more children are behaving like spoilt brats?
Here are my 7 ways parents turn their child into a spoilt brat. Can you think of more reasons?
7 Ways Parents Turn Their Child Into a Spoilt Brat
To a large extent, the blame lies with the parents – the way they bring up their children. Here are some of the things or ways parents turn their children into a spoilt brat.
It’s common to see parents overpraising their child for even doing things like taking out the trash or keeping their room clean. While it is important to show appreciation, overpraising can backfire. Showering the child with compliments like ‘good job’ or ‘awesome’ for every small thing they do can make them feel overconfident at best and narcissistic at worst. It makes a child discount the contribution of others and think that success is solely a result of just his own effort. And, when it comes to responsibilities, overindulged children think that doing their duty is nothing short of doing a favour to others, for which they deserve to be thanked. Overpraising also undermines the value of true praise for sincere efforts.
Parents working long hours are unable to spend much time with their children. This makes them feel guilty, especially mothers. As a result, busy parents try to make up by lavishing their children with extravagant gifts. Unfortunately, such overcompensation doesn’t do anything to make up for the lost time. On the contrary, it makes the child materialistic, greedy, and demanding. It also undermines the importance of quality time and proper bonding within the family.
Setting bad examples
The quote, “Your child will follow your example, not your advice,” has withstood the test of time. Our children observe everything we do and learn from the examples we set for them. When parents indulge in doing things like overspending, leading an overly materialistic life, talking back to their elders, or treating the powerful with respect but disrespecting the weak, it sets a bad example for children to follow. Such children grow up to be insensitive individuals.
Failing to implement consequences
Often, we threaten our children with dire consequences, but don’t follow-up with it. And, very soon, our children begin to realise that we’re not going to do any of those things we have threatened them with. However, life outside of home not so forgiving. Children who do not face consequences for their actions end up becoming irresponsible adults, which makes it difficult for them to survive, adjust and succeed in the real world.
Do you allow your to do as he pleases? For example, eat and sleep when he wants to or spend most of his time with gadgets. If so, this indicates that the only rule followed by your family is to please the whims and fancies of your child. Children who don’t follow the rules set by parents or are given the freedom to do whatever they want to, lack discipline and the ability to adjust to a regimen. The also lack self-control, which prevents them from achieving success in life.