That kid in the mall, face down, sprawled on the floor, wailing and throwing a tantrum for the toy the parents don’t want to buy or that one who sulks and broods just because the rest of the children did not want to play the game his way! We’ve come across them some time or the other and often wondered what is it that causes them to be spoiled?
Are you raising a spoiled brat?
A mother I know was so guilty of working and not spending enough time with the child on a weekday that she compensated for it by indulging her child in the weekend. Expensive toys, food at hotels and everything that the child wanted was laid in a platter. That was enough to get rid of the guilt of not being around on a weekday.
Some of the factors that lead to a child being spoilt are over-indulgence, giving in to the demands of the child, not disciplining them enough and not correcting the behaviour.
Are you raising a spoiled brat? Is that a question at the back of your mind? We’ll give you 8 signs to look out for that should be a red flag if your child is indulging in these activities.
Are you raising a spoiled brat? 8 signs of a spoilt child
My way or no way
The tantrum till you give in to exactly what the child wants, is that surer shot sign of a spoilt child. While most parents would succumb to it to avoid a scene, especially if they are outdoors, it is a sign that the child knows how to get things done their way. Letting the child respects others decisions is important here.
The child asks with authority for others to share their toys, but refuses to part with their own toys. Familiar sight? These are kids with a sense of entitlement who believe that they deserve everything that they ask for and it’s perfectly fine not to share. Start small, teach the child the importance of sharing and it will help them to build stronger and better bonds.
Wants more and more
While their share of chocolates is tucked away in a safe place, they ask their siblings or the parents to share more. But when it comes to sharing their chocolates, it’s a no-no! A brutal truth here would be that not only is the child spoilt but also selfish. This comes with the fact that parents do not encourage the concept of sharing for the child.
It is never enough
The friend will have the better toy! The neighbour’s child will have the collection of bey blades that he wanted first! Or someone he knows will have the better version of the video game. Forget the pile of toys that they already have, the list is endless. They want more all the time. Teaching them to be happy with the things that they have is the key to parenting here.
So, are you raising a spoiled brat? What do you think? This post was originally written for QuintFit. Click here to read the rest of the post.